build the bundled onetbb as a shared library on windows #275

Job	Run time
downstream (windows-11-arm, release)	6m 0s
ubuntu-latest (release)	3m 23s
macOS-latest (release)	3m 29s
ubuntu-24.04-arm (release)	2m 43s
downstream (windows-latest, release)	3m 2s
downstream (windows-latest, 4.2)	4m 41s
windows-latest (4.2)	9m 3s
windows-latest (release)	7m 25s
windows-11-arm (release)	9m 42s
	49m 28s

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