build the bundled onetbb as a shared library on windows #276

Job	Run time
downstream (windows-11-arm, release)	6m 43s
downstream (windows-latest, 4.2)	4m 22s
downstream (windows-latest, release)	2m 50s
windows-11-arm (release)	8m 3s
windows-latest (release)	6m 41s
ubuntu-latest (release)	3m 45s
macOS-latest (release)	2m 22s
windows-latest (4.2)	6m 29s
ubuntu-24.04-arm (release)	2m 42s
	43m 57s

Provide feedback